June 20, 2009. Choosing the day was simple; we wanted a June wedding. The 13th and the 27th were automatically avoided because those are on my list of “icky numbers.” June twentieth just seemed to perfectly roll off my tongue, so that was it! The weathermen predicted rain throughout the whole 10 day forecast, but it was beautiful. It was perfect.
The hustle and bustle of the morning kept my mind from becoming nervous. I knew inevitably something would be a disaster, but even after our photographer died just a few months before, after we forgot the flowers in Grandma’s fridge and not putting any thought of church decorations, I was relatively calm. I wanted to see Devin. I wanted to party. I wanted to be his wife.
The entirety of the service lasted 27 minutes. We walked down the isle, said our vows, had a little kiss-kiss and bad-a-bing bad-a-boom we were outta there. From the church we traveled to the Dolven-Kolle home to take wedding party photos. For the first time in a while, we were all so…relaxed. We were just having fun with our favorite people and feeling the blessings flow. Once we arrived at the reception, the party really started! The food was excellent (though I wasn’t able to eat much and Kendra was ecstatic to finish my plate), the family and friends were fabulous, and we were ready to dance. Ohhhh, the dance. Let me briefly explain to you that we decided to perform this dance medley BEFORE it became popular, overdone and kind of stupid. We thought it was an exceptional idea at the time and now I’m only slightly embarrassed by it. I guess it made the wedding more… memorable? I guess Kristy’s Maid of Honor speech spoke true when she quoted “Love is being stupid together.”
Looking back, it was the most perfect day we could have asked for. It’s funny, though, to think about how completely different our wedding would be now only five years later. Now, it would be at Christ the King, performed by Pastor Patrick. Kristy would be in charge of all the decorating (2009 was pre-pinterest, remember). But none of that matters, I still would choose Devin. I still would choose to share the special day with the most special people in our lives.
Though we may seem like “honeymooners” to some, I’ve learned a few things in the past five years of marriage.
1. Regardless of what everyone says, I do go to bed mad and I think that’s okay. I figure if I am still mad about it by the time I wake up, it can be an issue to discuss. Surprisingly, it’s rare and I wake the next morning relieved I didn’t make a big deal out of nothing.
2. Knowing Devin doesn’t have a romantic bone in his body, I don’t expect romance out of him. It’s a personality trait I cannot change, so I don’t try. I revel in the fact that my husband is an incredible man; he works hard to provide for his family, washes the dishes, puts away the laundry, and is by far the BESTEST BEST daddio in the world. That supersedes romance any day!
3. I never ask Devin “Does this look okay?” because he doesn’t know. He just really has no clue.
4. We are goofy together. I guess if you know us well you’d not be surprised by that. We play games together. We watch movies and TV shows together. We laugh a lot. We make sure to eat supper together as a family, even when our nights are hectic. We laugh at each other’s farts. We team up and depend on each other’s strengths.
5. Most importantly, I learned that “happily ever after” doesn’t exist they way I’d always believed. We have bad days and happy days. We love each other through it all. We invest time in one another, we let ourselves love and be loved.
From June 20, 2009:
“Here’s a little story for you… when I first brought Devin home I asked my mom what she thought of him. She said, “He’s fun, but it’s not like you’re going to marry him! He’s just your high school sweetheart” If we were keeping score, that would be Mandy:1 and Mom:1 million. I’m happy I was so right about this one.
So here I am on my wedding day and I cannot tell you how much I am blessed. God has given me the most wonderful friends, family, and now the most perfect husband. I never believed that I would be so lucky to find my true prince charming; someone to love The Beatles with, someone who always makes me laugh, and someone who would love me despite my most annoying qualities.
I want to thank my parents for their love, guidance, and patience. To our wedding party; we love each and every single one of you. You’ve made this day so special for us. And lastly and most lovingly, I thank Devin; for loving me like I’m perfect, for making me laugh, for all you do. I promise to love you all the days of my life.”
I love you like Kelly loves Zach, like Rachel loves Ross and like Topanga loves Cory. You are my one and only. I will love you all the days of my life.